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Wednesday, 24 May 2017

The Controversial Parenting Tag

Before I begin I just want to say everyone parents differently... I would never judge anyone on their ways so please don't on mine... After all it is called the CONTROVERSIAL tag!

I have seen quite a few mothers doing this tag recently more so on Youtube then blog posts but my video schedule is full until September.. So I'm doing it here instead.

1. Pro-life or Pro-choice?
pro-choice... every women should have the choice what they put there body though. Even though abortion isn't something I would personally do, I wouldn't judge someone if they had or wanted to.

2. Baby wearing?
I never did baby wearing with either of my boys.. So I don't know if I was to have another if I would try it or not. Both of my boys were great sleepers, I had no problems with them during the day or at night, moving them from Moses baskets to cots to their beds. Therefore I wonder if I did do baby wearing it would be completely different.. would the baby get to used to being carried around by me all day instead of in their pram for naps? Also when the boys napped that was my time to do jobs around the house have a bath etc... how could I do all that if I was baby wearing? I applauded people that do but I would just be worried when it comes to the time that I could no longer do it the baby would end up being clingy. Let me know if you did baby wearing and how did you and baby cope when you no longer done it?

3. Circumcision?
No for me.. just hearing the word makes me shiver. I know some people do it for religious reasons and others for health reasons and I understand that. Its just something I wouldn't do to my children.

4. Adoption?
Hell Yes...! Unfortunately there is so many children in the world that need loving homes and families to live with. I have spoke quite openly about adoption and fostering before and its something I would love to educate myself more in and maybe look into it for the future.

5. Baby piercing?
Not being a mum to a girl I tend not to think about this to much. However I know a lot of people talk about it. I had my ears pierced when I was 3 years old and even though my mum said I kept asking to have them done I don't remember.. What I do remember is having one ear done and running out the shop crying... I don't know how she got me to stop crying and to have the other ear done, but I do have both ears pierced :) I think if I was to have a little girl I don't think it would be something I would do.. It wouldn't be something I would talk to her about unless she asked and I think I would set a age where I would say it would be appropriate from. That way she will know she made the discussion and not me.

6. Breast VS Formula?
Either... surly this breast is best nonsense has got to stop... surely the baby being feed and happy is best. I have done both so its not that I'm against or that I find breast feeding offencive... Its just something my body wasn't able to do, well not for longer then a few weeks anyway.

7. CIO (cry it out) VS other?
Leaving a baby to cry for a few minutes to see if they will settle their self isn't going to hurt them but leaving them for more then that is just something yet again I wouldn't do. Crying is the only way a baby can tell you something is wrong, So surly if the crying carries on there is something that they're  trying to tell you.

8. Smacking?
Taps on the hands or bottom yes... but no harder. Its not something I do now it was more when the boys first started getting around. This was when they became nosey and wanting to touch, eat and play with everything in sight. Sometimes saying no isn't enough especially if something they were doing was dangerous. Now they're both older and they understand the meaning of No and why we're counting to 3 its just something that no longer happens in our house, I don't feel the need for it. My boys know the rules and boundaries and if the don't behave they know they get sent to their room, no treats and items are taken away. (The last one is more for Taylor then Freddie, his still a bit to young to understand that one.)

9. Co-Sleeping?
As I said back in my baby wearing answer I was lucky both of my boys were great sleepers, so I honestly didn't find the need to co-sleep. I understand why people do it, being a mum is tiring and having a baby/child that doesn't sleep makes it more difficult. Occasionally Freddie has got in bed with us during the night or when his ill and he wants a cuddle. However when his asleep I move him back to his bed. I do this for many reasons 1. I don't want him to get into the habit of sleeping in bed with us 2. I worry about squishing him during the night as I'm a fidget and 3. There just isn't enough room. I don't know how people do co-sleeping unless they have a king size bed.

10. Home VS Public VS Private schooling?
As long as a child is educated then yet again what does it matter.. My boys are Privately educated because the schools where we live are unfortunately below average. This maybe down to the number of children they are having to take in because there just isn't enough schools in my area. Home schooling would have been something I would have looked into further if the independent school wasn't near us. However I'm not the brightest of people so they would have been better attending a public school then staying home with me. Public schools are brilliant as long as you have good ones to choose from.. As a country we are lucky enough to have free education not like others.

11. Vaccinations?
Yes.. Yet again like schooling we are lucky enough to have the NHS to provide us with free medical care including vaccinations to protects us form horrible illnesses. I do however like to check and read up on all the information before hand. It just puts my mind at rest and I then know what each jab is for and why its necessary.

12. Medicating children?
Yes, as long as its not over medicated. I myself don't take a lot of medicines I try everything I can before taking something.. EG - Headache, drink a glass of water, close my eyes for 5 minutes, pressure on my temples.. if none of these work I will then take a paracetamol. However with the children I am a bit more willing to medicate. Its very rare my children are ill so normally if they are I can tell and straight away give them something or take them to the doctors.

13. Cloth VS Disposable nappies?
With both of the boys I used disposable nappies. My mum used Terry's (I think that's what they were called) with my brother and I and they were HUGE.. I'm surprised she could find clothing our bums would fit in. However Cloth nappies have come along way since then.. they actually look more like a nappies now. To be honest the thing that puts me off them is the washing side.. I wouldn't really want to put pooie nappies in a place where I wash clothes to be clean.

These are my answers to all the controversial subjects... I would love it if you would leave me a comment and let me know your thoughts on the options.

Thanks For Reading 
With Love  



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